Okay, "Other Stuff" first.
Been super busy at work.
The new co-worker is doing fine and we get along well.
My boss gave me a $1/hour raise!
Our local fair was in town recently. I entered a table setting again.
It was set for the fair's theme and won a first place - $15 prize.
Our friend took us into the fair again for free this year.
I went three times.. once was girl's night.
DH and I did make it to the gym *almost* every day since my last post.
(Between work, gym, fair and home I had very little down time lately.)
The kids and I bought DH a Fit Bit for Father's Day.
He has really liked it and using it seems to help him motivate.
DH's stress test for his heart function was all completely normal and is regular physician cleared him to return to work.
His doctor did refill the anxiety medication.
DH has started talking to me more about what causes him anxiety. Some of it is from his crazy mom - her guilt trips and passive aggressive bulls**t.
And he is nervous about returning to work tomorrow.
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Okay, "Other Stuff" first.
It has been a busy May. I have been wanting to blog, but have been feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated.
Unfortunately, my boss' wife was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer mid-way through the month.
It really came out of nowhere. She had some mild pain in March, but that had resolved. Then she was having shortness of breath at the end of April and the doctors saw some fluid accumulation in her chest. They started the string of diagnostics to rule things in or out (heart, lungs, infection etc..). When they drained the fluid and analyzed it it was full of cancer cells.
Naturally my boss has been a mess. To make it worse they are totally f***ked in the financial department.
(You might recall previous posts about poor money management and being in bankruptcy for the second time.)
He had to keep coming in to work, even while she was hospitalized, because he doesn't have enough reserve to even miss more than one day of income.
Really bad. And sad, sad, sad.
Due to these circumstances he didn't pay close attention to his bank account and bounced almost every check/charge that week - including paychecks...
By the time I see that my paycheck bounced it was two days until payday again. Deposited that check and naturally my bank puts a hold on the funds until they know the check will clear. Arrgg!!
Received our third, post-diagnosis, paycheck this last Friday. It is in my purse right now.. I have decided to cash it (well, try to) tomorrow.
So yeah, as it stands he paid me cash for the bounced check and my fees associated with it.
The following check is tied up in Hold limbo until later this week.
The current check might get cashed tomorrow.. hopefully.
This is especially inconvenient since my income is the only income for my family right now.
(DH has applied for his disability and we are waiting for the first check.)
My co-worker, N, as had enough. She feels like now is the right time to move on - I think she is making the right move.
She has been thinking of moving to a lower cost of living area. She found a place this last week.
(A place where she will be renting *a house* for the same cost as she had been renting *a room* from her friend.)
I am very sad she is going. We have worked together for 13 years.
She is leaving pronto - tomorrow is the last day we will work together!
Things are not feeling so great, or hopeful, at work right now.
Been busy here. We were out every weekend in August.
DD theater performances.
Close friends had their twin's first birthday.
Kids visiting grandparents.
Our nephew's first birthday.
A baby shower for my BFF.
Lots of traveling so we spent way more than usual in gas.
(Beautiful Quicken graph for an ugly total!)
Did a little better in other spending areas - food for one since we didn't have to feed ourselves several weekends.
We didn't buy anything for the twins. They have so much family that there was a huge pile of gifts. Our friends have a small house too, so I don't know where all that is going to go!
Our nephew got a box of fruit & veggie pouches from Costco. $12.
For my BFF baby shower I bought two clearance items. A cute outfit for $3.99 and a plush blanket for $5.99. I also bought her firstborn a wooden puzzle (her birthday is next week) for $4.
While shopping I found a very cute long sleeve Roxy shirt for DD. $19. I stashed it for Christmas.
DH is still having short hours at work, which leads to low paychecks. It's tough because we can't pay extra to anything and we still need to get the roof taken care of and I do not want to drain the EF to $0.
Honestly, I cannot remember the last time he had a "normal" 40 hour paycheck. It has been about 18 months since he had a full paycheck AND commission (sometimes netted him as much as $500/week extra).
And it seems it is causing him some depression. Even though it isn't his fault, he is taking it personally (like he can't provide for the family).
I have suggested that now might be the right time to try finding something new or maybe a part time job. I have gotten a lukewarm response to that, so we'll see....
Received an email Friday from the company I had the phone interview with last week.
They said they are hiring someone internally for the position.
I did feel disappointed when I read the email.
Not terribly crushed or anything. But the disappointment I felt made me realize I was hoping for this more than I actually thought.
I'll just keep pluggin' along as usual for now.
Had my phone interview this afternoon. It went smoothly. I got the feeling there are many people they are phone screening, so we'll see.
I was told I should hear in about a week if there will be a face to face interview.
The interviewer asked what my desired salary would be and I said $42k, which is a decent increase over what I make now. She couldn't offer exact details on compensation, but there is base salary, commission, "spiffs", vehicle & fuel reimbursement.
Still feeling unsure/anxious about this, but as I keep saying, the possibilities are exciting.
If I do get a personal interview I am thinking at that point I will tell my current boss what is going on. If I do not get the job it will open a dialog about the fact I will be leaving at some point.
And if I do get the job I will have given him a bit more advanced notice - I think that is the right thing to do given nearly 14 years of employment.
What do you all think?
Everyone here (DH, coworker, friends) think I should just stick with the standard two weeks notice.
ETA: I was able to speak with the woman who just left this position after 13 years. I've known her for a long time so I told her I had applied and asked for her perspective.
She said she didn't get along with the regional manager (her boss) who was hired two years ago. She said, "she is very middle management. Some people get along fine with her. You might like her just fine."
She didn't say, "Heck NO - Run away!" So I guess that's good??
This is the last week of school.
DS will go to some summer sessions of preschool, but not with the regular teachers or program.
DD will be *free* of any schedules except for 4H camp and possibly a four week musical theater day camp.
The past few mornings I have had a really hard time getting going - we are all ready for a more relaxed "summer schedule".
I can get about 20 more minutes in bed or hanging around the house because I won't have to drive DD to school.
Phone interview is on Thursday.
I plan to ask several questions since the job posting was so vague.
I told my co-worker if I don't get this job I will plan to leave current job next year when DS finishes his preschool year. It is hard to make changes, but I think it needs to happen. At the very least applying for this job has got my mind more accepting of change.
I received a phone call this morning from the company I applied with last month. They set up a phone interview with me for Thursday afternoon.
At first I got that scared feeling again.
I had to ask myself what am I so afraid of?
I've decided it's a fear of change and fear of the unknown. But I also know this could be a wonderful opportunity so I've got to keep moving forward on this.
The phone interview will give me a chance to gather more information.
For one, I want to find out if I will be given a company car or reimbursed somehow. I also want to ask about the training period and amount of travel outside of "home area".
Is it too soon to ask about salary?
Haven't said anything to my boss about any of this yet. I am thinking if I get called back for in-person interview then I will say something.
That is another hard part for me - I'm feeling disloyal about thinking of leaving. (I am sure that will seem silly to some of you, but I've been with this job/boss for 14 years.)
My coworker rents a one bedroom house (part of a four-plex). This weekend she received notice from her landlord that he is planning to sell the property and she has 60 days to move. She is feeling really stressed. I feel bad for her - it sucks to move even when you want to, let alone when you don't.
She has started searching - wow have the rents gone up since she moved a little over a year ago!
She called on a one bedroom apartment and its $1295/mo. Well over 50% of her income.
The voicemail message box for a $900/mo studio was full and not accepting new voicemails when she called on it.
She is feeling really discouraged right now.